There are no parents who do not want their children to be smart and superior at school or anything. But sometimes, daily dense activities has already becoming one of the obstacles for parents to be able to provide guidance directly to their children after school.
However, the treatment of external factors (in this case: family or parents) to the children is also one of the main factors determining the spirit of learning. In general, children who experience closeness with their parents will certainly be different from they who are oftenly independent and do not get too much attention from their parents. That is, there will be different results ranging from the way of learning to behaving. Children who get good parenting will usually find it easier to understand the information and get the right direction at the time of application, and vice versa. Children who often get bad treatment from parents (pressure, loud voice / snapping, coercion) will impact on behavior deviations. Meanwhile, internal factors that naturally come from the child itself must also be reinforcement so that the spirit of learning is improved and continues to increase.
According to Spielgaben, there are 10 causes of being lazy children to learn, namely;
1. Difficult to Concentrate
In general, a sign that shows that your child has problems concentrating is the difficulty of focusing on one thing and often takes a long time to receive and filter information due to lack of energy. However, there are several things that can be done to overcome them, for example by therapy to improve learning abilities; such as wax therapy, therapy smells, and various other therapies or can also not turn on the television while studying. In addition, creating an atmosphere that is fun for children in learning will certainly help it concentrate more quickly.
2. Don’t Feel Comfortable with the Environment
The level of comfort of each child in determining the mood during learning will certainly be different. Some need music as an introduction, some need an atmosphere of peace and calm, and various other ways. But when they are reaching the point of concentration and are disturbed by noise, or certain smells, and several other factors, they will feel uncomfortable with the atmosphere or the learning environment. Another thing is because there is no stimulus in the space environment that can attract children to learn. Even light that is too dim can make a child more comfortable to sleep. So, preparing a comfortable room that is free from noise disturbances, placing a number of pictures or posters and other items that can stimulate a child in learning is another way to improve children’s enthusiasm in learning and which should not be forgotten, namely to set the room to be light enough . No less important is the condition of the room or study room that is clean and does not work will make his mind more relaxed and easy to concentrate.
3. Don’t Like the Lessons Learned
Like adults, there are times when children show their dislike for something. Schooled, not all existing fields of study are liked by them. So what parents need to do is change their perspective by replacing it with more interesting things to enjoy. For example, making learning mathematics fun by accompanying them to practice and learn. On the sidelines, parents also teach them fun and interesting ways of learning which are analogies of the subject matter being worked on. Besides teaching mathematics by seeing its function in everyday life will make children understand how important it is to learn mathematics. By providing simple examples to make them comfortable and like learning or difficult things will help them to understand and like it more easily.
4. Don’t Feel Challenged by the Material Provided
Activities that tend to be stagnant at school can sometimes make children quickly bored and feel less attractive. This happens because they do not feel challenged with the subject matter that is just like that. To overcome this, parents can give a test that must be completed within a certain period of time so that they will be provoked to pursue or complete the order. Or it can also set goals in learning with children (which are considered higher than their abilities) and give time to achieve these goals. If it is felt that it has not been able to increase its motivation in learning. Keep in mind that not all children can do and enjoy the challenges given. Therefore, patience in guiding them and making them accept the challenges given is key. The challenges given can be started from a simple step, to the most difficult one measured based on their abilities, not their parents.
- Not Believing Their Own Ability / Less ConfidentSelf confidence is something that must be invested first in children so that they are able to believe in their own abilities. If they do not believe their learning efforts to gain the abilities, then they will lose motivation to learn. The way to handle this is that it can be done by preparing learning strategies which can help to make them feel happy and interested. Make the learning process going easy and do not forget to give results. Instead do not give material that is too difficult for them. Finally give feedback with advice that can motivate them that they can do great things by learning. Make them believe that every effort they make will provide equal results while instilling confidence in themselves. Not Getting Rewards in Accordance with the Issued Efforts
Like an adult, when working on a difficult task then someone gives a small reward and certainly it is not in accordance with the effort that we have spent, it will reduce motivation to do the task. As with children, when they are getting good grades from the exam but the teacher does not give the rewards, sure it can destroy their motivation. By making several goals and giving gifts that are appropriate for each goal that has been achieved, children will get back their spirit. Each goal can also be explained as to what benefits they might be obtained so they can train and know more the limits of their abilities.
7. Failure to Achieve Goals
Somehow, there is a time when children has already learned hard and get the concentration and but there also will be times when they do not. If that happens, this will also reduce children’s motivation to learn. As a parent, it’s not recommended to give negative comments or scold them for failing to achieve the goals but to make them stay focused and achieve it. It is also important to be a note for parents to make an often discuss so that they know what to do and evaluate to understand what should not be done.
- Don’t Learn Convenient With Teachers in SchoolSome children can work well with teachers at school and some cannot. In this condition, if the child has difficulty cooperating with their teacher, then the possible impact is to make them rebel or retreat. However, if it is not immediately sought to find out the cause, then this can result in a prolonged effect. Therefore, as a parent all you have to do is communicate with their teacher at school about problems that may be faced by the child. Discuss and find the right solution with the teacher to see their changes and development. Improper Learning Methods
Every child is born with their own uniqueness. That’s why every child will be different, including learning styles. Some children learn with better visuals, some with better audio, or learn better with kinesthetic learning styles. When learning is done in school is not in accordance with student learning styles, the results obtained are not optimal so that it will affect students’ motivation in learning. In this case, parents can discuss and convey problems from children to be very important. Or, use a separate method while working on a task at home in a gentle way as a parent. It might be a way to teach teachers in the school too rushed or too hard so that it makes it difficult to digest or record important information delivered. While exploring the learning style that he likes, it’s a good idea if parents also need to observe things they often do while learning to know more deeply, whether they are the type that gets bored quickly so that they will be interrupted (while playing or watching the preferred program), or the type will not give up before the work is done.
10. Too Tired and Lacking Rest
Undeniably, the study hours that are applied in schools today are certainly different from those of a few years ago when the era of previous parents. The average time spent can reach 10 hours a day including extracurricular activities and tutoring. When they arrived home, they could not rest because there was a pile of homework that had to be completed. A very dense activity will make him lose his rest time so that he is easily tired from running out of energy and leads to an increasingly lazy learning. The first thing to do by parents is to start arranging the schedule so that it is balanced with the rest time, providing intake of foods that are rich in nutrients and vitamins, and inviting him to refresh so that his life pattern is not monotonous due to too often staring at the lesson. This will make the energy back recharged and the mood does not go down quickly. Give them time to play a little, because the treatment for children cannot be equalized with teenagers, let alone adults.